But once they're living together, they find out breaking up can be next to impossible. Castration-lynching in this society has been directed primarily at Blacks and has been interpreted as direct violence on the sexual potency of Black males by whites, because of the threat of Black sexuality. Campbell-Schmitt and his wife have dealt with these public microaggressions for years. So as for the idea that feminists are abrasive, mannish women in flannel, either it's grossly inaccurate, or there are a lot of dudes who are into that kind of thing. Admiring the differences in a partner who is of a different race is fine.
That's one of the issues with interracial dating.
The idea that being bossy is unattractive in a woman also exposes sexist double standards. The stereotypical online date is usually a wacky horror story--the guy who was seven inches shorter and 60 pounds heavier than he claimed to be, the woman who looked nothing like her picture and confessed that she was married and also a dude. Seeking out a relationship with Asian women because they're supposedly submissive or black women because they're "freaks," in bed is not cool. Well, while dating outside of your race might demonstrate that you are open-minded, at the end of the day, interracial relationships won't necessarily "solve" racism. While Buchanan Rogers said she has encountered people who think interracial couples "don't have candid discussions about race," this is hardly the universal truth. You could call this the Sex and the City syndrome. And don't forget to follow us on Facebook and Twitter to get sexy, sexy jokes sent straight to your news feed.